Some people hide their racism, but no matter how long they try to repress it, it eventually comes out in the end

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My husband and I have been together for 27 years. He is white and I am black. As I have shared in my previous articles, when we met, we were surprised to learn that many of his white friends and my black friends were racist. At first, we tried to change these people but soon realized that that was an impossible task.

We made new friends, and deeply enjoy and value the genuine bond that connects us to them. When I think back to pre Covid-19 times, I recall our parties, all of our mixed-race children playing and laughing together — for me, a vision of the future of mankind. …


As a black professional, you need to weigh the job opportunity with the level of racism and discrimination you may encounter in a particular city or country

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Photo credit: Jovaughn Stephens

Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve been offered a great job, but you realize you’d have to move to a city with a largely racist population? Do you decide to go and suck it up as best possible, or do you decline the offer and stay where you are? This type of dilemma is common when you are a black professional.

I don’t deny that white people also face dilemmas in deciding to move to a whole new city or country for a job, but I would argue that when you’re black, you have that additional amount of stress in trying to determine how the racism in that new place will affect you and your family. You can’t just ignore it, you need to take it into consideration in order to ensure you don’t land up in a place that may for example destroy your marriage or negatively affect the members of your family. …


Black and brown people helped save the Capitol too

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Photo credit: @marjanblan

Have you noticed? There is something disturbing about the Capitol riots global media coverage. It again glorifies whiteness. Yes, take a look. Whether it’s the buffoons who raided the landmark unmasked and unfettered by any decency or with all due respect, the white Capitol policeman who lost his life, all the individuals the media highlights are white.

But the reality is that there were black and brown heroes at the Capitol too. They fought with all their might to defend the very seat of democracy and the Congress and Senate representatives that uphold it. …


The cancer of white supremacy has spread in the US, but there might still be a way to save the country

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I’ve got bad and good news folks, resignations in the Trump Administration, condemnation of Trump by fellow Republicans, and the deletion of Trump's social media accounts have all come too late, the white supremacists have already won, but America might still be able to save itself.

You see, America has been the most racist country in the world this whole time. They had become masters in hiding that abhorrent racism using their propaganda arm: Hollywood.

With Paramount, 20th Century Fox studios, and others, they created films that projected a largely false narrative about America. I grew up on that propaganda, I should know. Those movies showed a non-racist America, a progressive, diverse and multicultural nation with people of different ethnicities loving each other, making mixed-race babies together, working alongside each other, winning together. So prominent and repetitive was that narrative, that as a black woman growing up in Switzerland, my one and only dream was to move to the US. …


White supremacy has a face, and we saw it at the US Capitol

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For many people — white, black, and brown people, white supremacy is something abstract and intangible. Many simply think it doesn’t exist because they cannot see or feel the effects of it. I’ve gotten into many an argument with family, friends, and complete strangers as to the genuine existence of white supremacy, something I consider the worse form of hatred towards black and brown people all over the world.

As I have often said, white supremacy isn’t just members of the alt-right, white nationalist groups, or the Klan terrorizing black and brown people. It is the conscious and unconscious acts of people — black, brown, or white, to enforce — at times even violently, white values, cultures, and beliefs as superior to those of all other cultures. …


To be honest, nothing

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Yes, I am referring to Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, and Bill Gates, and no I don’t have anything in common with them. I don’t have their white privilege, their male privilege, their Ivy League school dropout privilege, their wealth privilege, or the tens of other privileges they have or had.

They might as well live on Mars for all I care, we have absolutely nothing in common and there is no way in which my life will ever resemble theirs. I need to fight for every inch of respect, recognition and wealth I’ll ever get in my life. All they’ve done is flash that white male privilege card to get there — that’s how they got all those investors and excessive market valuations in the first place. …


Being wrongly accused of a crime you did not commit is one of the worse possible situations one can face in life

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I’d been traveling all night and was eager to board the last leg of my flight from London Heathrow airport to Geneva, Switzerland. A long weekend lay ahead, and I was already thinking of what I would do once I got home. As I settled into my business class seat, I slowly exhaled a sigh a relief. The mission had been successful, the project was on track. I’d be home in max 2 hours I thought to myself. I secretly hoped the seat next to mine would remain empty. That would add even more comfort to the short flight ahead. …


When you give advice to a Black person from a place of white privilege, don’t expect us to say thank you

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I am an anti-racism writer. I share my experiences so that people understand that racism is real; it is not the collective hallucination of Black people the world over.

I write from a place of pain and trauma. It hurts to relive my experiences, but I feel the need to share them with the universe to generate empathy, compassion, and hopefully change.

Often — White people mainly — get aggressive and defensive about what I write. It manifests itself by outright insults, gaslighting, and bullying. Others look down from their pedestal of white privilege and give me advice that could only possibly work if I were White like them. They think they are allies in the fight against racism when they are not. They give what they feel is great advice on a host of issues and expect profuse thanks. …


You’re in that joyful mood of the festive season, but a few microaggressions later, you're emotionally drained

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Christmas shopping is meant to be fun right? Especially this year since one has to queue up for hours to get into stores due to the pandemic. Well, for me a black woman, Christmas shopping proved to be yet another painful experience. Mind you, I did a lot of my shopping online just to remove the pain of a racist encounter, but, yesterday, I realized there were a few gifts missing so off to the stores I went.

After a relatively long time queuing outside, I was let into an Ali Baba’s cave of hundreds of potential gifts to buy. I walked around evaluating my options, asking myself if such and such a person would appreciate this or that gift. I paused at the Dyson vacuum cleaner display, fascinated by a video showing the tornado-like aspiration power of these colorful high tech brooms. …


Throughout my professional career, there is nothing that I have desired more than a true mentor. As a black woman living in Switzerland, this has been a hard thing to come by. Let me explain.

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I’m not looking for just anyone to mentor me. I am looking for someone who understands what it means to be different from one's colleagues. I am looking for someone who empathizes, who understands that it is not easy to navigate a dominantly white corporate world.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I want a mentor that looks like me, I’m saying I want a mentor who understands how it feels to always be in the minority — in a way, to be the underdog. Why do I insist on this? …

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Rebecca Stevens A.

I write about racism, but there are so many other things I would like to write about instead. Help me dismantle racism so that I can get to that.

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