How many of you have secretly ever thought that?

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Let’s face it, at least once in your life you've thought this when you’ve met a black woman. There are many of you out there, not just white people, but also black and brown people too who think that we, black women are full of drama. And you know what, these insidious stereotypes wreak a lot of havoc on our lives. It denies us opportunities, and it casts us as the antagonists before we even get a chance to open our mouths. You, on the contrary, get to go out there…

And I wish all days were like that

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When our friends suggested we come out on their boat during dinner on Saturday evening, I was reluctant. Not because I didn’t want to spend time on beautiful Lake Geneva, but rather because I was afraid I hadn’t had enough time to mentally prepare myself for the racial microaggressions or racism I could possibly face at the marina, on the beach itself, or at the restaurant we might have a small coffee at once we had finished the outing.

I wasn’t sure that I was in the mood to have my Sunday ruined by a potential act of racism. So…

Because they think that we are out to get them

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A few years ago, I set up a black womens’ club to discuss and get support for some of the issues that I was having. I lived in a predominantly white city, I was facing racism, my mixed-race son was being bullied at school, my husband could not find a job, I was unhappy living in the countryside and I couldn’t find a hairdresser to style my Afro-textured hair. I created the group to get advice from women that looked liked me and might have been going through similar experiences.

We planned a lunch every month. Our first event was…

You have a responsibility to change things

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You may have been born into a racist family; that happens. But it’s not because you are born into these circumstances that you can use that as an excuse for being a racist. If you are born into this type of family, your objective should be to ensure that racism ends with you and that nonracism — even better, antiracism, starts with you.

You see, you have the responsibility to make sure your children are antiracists. You need to make sure you break that cycle of racism in your family — to prevent it from poisoning future generations. Do you…

You can’t ignore what is going on and still expect to be my friend

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Since May 2020 and the on-the-camera murder of George Floyd, most of my white friends and colleagues have been weird. They know that I have become quite vocal in denouncing racism in all its insidious forms, and it seems to scare them.

Almost all my friends haven’t had the courage to openly speak about racism. I sense discomfort and awkwardness between us. It’s as if they don’t know what to say to me, or maybe they are afraid that they will not say the right thing…

Racism is real and antiracism is the only antidote — don't discredit it

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Like most of you, I read about the Black Lives Matter advocate that stole money from the movement. I have heard about unscrupulous individuals making money on the back of social justice initiatives — not just BLM. In my humble opinion, there will always be unethical, bottom-of-the-barrel people trying to make a quick buck by exploiting other people’s pain and suffering. Black Lives Matter and antiracism are not immune to scams and imposters either. …

When a black person tells you that they have experienced racism, believe them

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You’re going out for dinner with a friend. On the bus ride into town, you manage to secure a seat next to an elderly white lady. She is fixating you and seems uncomfortable. You shrug it off, why make a big deal, you’ll probably never see her again anyway. You focus on your phone and continue reading your messages. The elderly lady gets up. She already seems unsteady on her feet and the bus is moving fast. You need to make space for her to pass. You…

America levies sanctions against China and Myanmar for killing minorities but it does exactly the same thing by killing its black people

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Not a day went by last week without a bodycam video of yet another black or brown person getting killed by police in America. From Daunte Wright who was according to police, accidentally murdered, to Adam Toledo who was shot with his arms raised high above his head, the news from across the “Big Pond” was pretty morose. Whatever these children were being charged with, they did not deserve to have their lives cut short.

From my perspective…

When shopping while black makes you the target of racism

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Teresa and I have been friends for years, but the events of life drove us apart for while. We followed each other on social media and were always aware of what was going on in each other’s lives. Teresa and I met while working for an executive education institution in western Switzerland. We shared an office for a while. At the time, I was pregnant with my first child, a boy. Though we’d heard about Rodney King and police brutality against black men, in particular, we both hoped that by the time my unborn brown child was old enough to…

But it gives the world some hope

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I was going to stay awake for as long as it took yesterday. I needed to hear the Derek Chauvin verdict before going to bed here in Europe. And from what I hear, I wasn’t the only one who was willing to sacrifice a night’s rest to listen to what Chauvin’s fate would be. Friends and colleagues were up too. This was a moment I had waited for forever since that fateful day in May last year when George Floyd brutally lost his life right in front of the cameras for the whole world to see.

Over the course of…

Rebecca Stevens A.

I write about racism, but there are so many other things I would like to write about instead. Help me dismantle racism so that I can get to that.

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